The title pretty much says it all. Me and hubby have been together 8 years (married for 4) and both in our early 30s. I've been the same weight during our whole relationship so it's not like I let myself go or anything. I probably look better than I did 8 years ago but he told me recently he isnt as attracted as he once was and this has caused our sex life to really take a nose dive. He barely seems interested and I end up doing all the work in bed. We still have sex a few times a week but mainly because I initiate. I need to dress up, put on a lot of makeup for him to even get aroused (that's always been his thing, and I was happy to do it) but even now thats not enough. Worst of all, he seems to be unsatisfied with my boob size. He strongly insinuated I should get a boob job. I'm maybe a large B but he loves huge boobs. I guess I'm confused because he seemed fine with them this whole time and suddenly they aren't enough? I get that things change in relationships but this seems like a bit much. I feel frustrated and sad and angry that my body isnt enough and it has really affected my self esteem which he is totally oblivious to.
I guess my question is can attraction come back when it's gone? Any advice ? He says he isn't trying to hurt me and just wants to be honest. He does suffer from depression and is unhappy about other things as well but it has never affected our relationship in this way. I just dont know what to do. Is my relationship doomed?
TL;DR husband no longer attracted to me, makes me feel selfconscious about my body, advice needed on how to deal with this and if there is any hope.
Submitted November 14, 2018 at 07:28PM by Laurabellle https://ift.tt/2Pr3VZk
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