TL;DR: Met guy at Uni which initially seemed shy, soon after started invading my personal space even though I subtly pointed it out to him and acted weirdly!
I [21f] feel like I already messed up by letting so much time pass and only saying something once, but if you can help/have any ideas feel welcome! I am far from home at Uni and I am not good at confrontations. English is not my mother tounge so please excuse any mistakes.
It was the first day of my classes and I immediately got along quite well with some of my fellow students and even exchanged numbers. There was only one guy that didn´t say anything and just stood awkwardly near a table in the corner of the room. His eyes were on his phone but it didn't seem like he was actually doing anything and to be completely honest he seemed a little bit lonely and lost, so I went over to him and started to introduce myself and give him my number in case we wanted to start a study group or whatever. He was kind of relieved to see me walking over to him and even said "thank god, finally I am meeting someone!". - That´s all he said.
While I was talking to him, or having a monologue, a girl I met previously asked me to hang out with her before her next class. The guy just invited himself and went along with us outside where we sat down on the grass and just talked.
We spent some time outside and during that time the guy didn't say anything. Not one word.
I just figured that maybe he was just shy and needed some time to get comfortable. After the girl had to leave I spent some minutes with him and I actually didn´t enjoy myself at all. He just would not say anything. Every time I asked him a question he would answer it with one word or just ignore it. It was weird. I even remember telling him that it feels weird talking so much and him not saying anything but he just said "it´s fine". After some minutes we said our goodbyes and went our ways.
During the next lessons he would always sit next down to me but never say anything.
I thought it was because of his shyness so I was the one saying "hello" or "hi" but never got anything back. I always initiated conversation and started to ask him about his weekend/day or about the classes and his answers were always a combination of the following words: "nothing" or "not" and "important".
I also tried to initiate going to the library together or eat at the cafeteria but he just stood up and left the questions hanging. I tried doing that for some time but stopped after a while.
Even though we are only about ten people in one of my classes and have more than fifty seats available he would always sit next to me. I didn´t mind at first, but then he started to annoy me. Last week I introduced myself to someone knew after the class and while I was talking I saw him from the corner of my eye stalking to me and just standing awfully close next to me without saying or even announcing himself. I could see that the person was a little bit confused but he just listened for a while than he just left. The problem I have is, that he is always so awfully close to me as if he wants something. He is always in my comfort zone and just stares. He is like wet cereal, he is not unfriendly but due to him not speaking he isn’t fun to be around either. I did talk to my friends and they said that I should just tell him that I don´t want him to sit next to me. However I cannot do that because I would feel bad.
I did tell him some weeks ago that because I am left handed and he is one of those reckless right handed people that don´t care about using all the room of the table that it would be better if he would sit somewhere else so our elbow would not collide all the time. That isn´t even a lie. He is a little bit on the heavy side and takes a lot of space and pushes me to the edge of the table. Instead of answering with noting he just said, that he doesn’t mind the little space between us. I don´t know if he didn’t get it or just didn’t want to get it.
I honestly feel very uncomfortable around him. At the same time I feel mean because he isn't doing anything or saying anything but he is constantly around me and invading my personal space.
Submitted November 14, 2018 at 11:31AM by bottlesparklingwater https://ift.tt/2DnFBQH
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