Alright, I do get it... most of the time married couples get into some sort of rut at some point. I understand this. But how does this happen to two young individuals who haven’t even been married that long!
My husband and I have been married for almost a year now. We had dated for quite a few years before that. I just feel like at this point, we are so incredibly comfortable around each other, the allure and sexiness, lust, etc has just vanished. Maybe it’s my fault, maybe it’s his or both, I don’t know... maybe farting in front of each other or using the bathroom at the same time wasn’t helping. We have seen the best and the absolute worst of eachother. Did we somehow become roommates/best friends who simply have sex?
In the beginning couple years of our relationship, the sex was spontaneous, intense, constant! It slowly turned into this, so it wasn’t an instant rut. Now we have sex and while it’s still satisfying for both, that spark and passion isn’t there. We both love eachother deeply and have so much fun together. Where does that fire go though? Can you get it back after you’ve done so much “gross” stuff in front of them? I feel like it’d just be awkward trying to bring out that hardcore lust at this point. That “I’ve got to have you now, I don’t care where we are” feeling. I miss those days!
Additionally, I have found myself to fantasize about other men I know (friends, colleagues, exes) in a purely sexual way. I’d never want to be in a relationship with them, but picturing having a forbidden sexy one night stand with so much lust and passion is what pervades my mind.
TL;DR - Husband and I got too comfortable and fell into lustless rut very soon into our marriage
Submitted August 01, 2018 at 06:22AM by ignited_introvert https://ift.tt/2n12sIz
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