My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. At the start of the pandemic 2 days after our 2 year anniversary I got a “hey girlie…” message that my boyfriend was on tinder talking to girls. I confronted him and freaked out. Things had been bad for a little bit and this was a bit of a wake up call. I made him tell me everything there were multiple girls added to snap but never any nude photos exchanged etc. I ended up staying because we had been in a very bad place and I had been really getting harsh. So for awhile we broke up for a few months and then gave it a better go.
Jump forward 1.5 years. The night before his sister’s wedding we get screamed at by his mother because she thinks we’re destroying the family by staying in a hotel room together (no surprise his family is the bulk of our problems.) After that we got very drunk with all the groomsmen. I am from NY, I’m loud and have been told - so I don’t seem like I’m bragging - I’m pretty funny. I end up joking with a guy about how he’s balding at young age etc this somehow gets around that I was flirting and throwing myself at him. With my boyfriend sitting next to me. Maybe it’s cultural and that New York Italians just seem flirty to conservative Midwest boys but I didn’t think I acted strange at all. I poured shots for everyone and joked with all. (Not to mention this guy - in a not mean way is not at all my taste, my boyfriend is gorgeous and we talked about engagement rings all night)
His parents then perpetuate this rumor and my boyfriend says “if this is true I’ll have to think about things”
I point out I have forgiven him for much worse (even though I didn’t do what they’re saying) and he says they’re the same thing.
Am I the asshole for insisting what he did was worse? He had to conscious download an app, create a profile, match girls, add them on snap, give one his phone number. He claims because he never met up with anyone it’s equal.
This happened a few months ago he says he believes I didn’t throw myself at anyone but when I bring it up he says it’s still the same thing to him
tl;dr am I wrong for saying my boyfriends 3 week stint with tinder 2 years ago is worse than me joking around drunk with someone at party?
Submitted April 01, 2022 at 11:50PM by StandingRoomOnly25 https://ift.tt/XrBcNwt
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