My husband and I are planning on getting a "fresh start" at the end of the year after saving money for a down payment. My niece is graduating high school soon. Instead of taking her summer break, she's taking her last 4 classes and graduates at the end of July.
Now, my husband and I are planning on moving in September/October. She was going to move to our state this summer with her older sibling.
I warned them this state is extremely expensive, you can't even get a one bedroom apartment for less than $1700 and you need first and last months rent. K is 22 and had their first job ever. E has had a couple of jobs and since they had gotten a car, they've been in charge of taking K to work, taking their step sister to school, and paying for her own phone bill, car insurance, etc. (I don't know if any of the child support their dad gets from my sister for E actually goes to E.)
Well, K and E want to come with us. So, we've been pricing 4 bedroom houses. The deal is that we'd make a rental contract with their rent being equal and each of them contributing to utilities. We'd still pay the majority, and of course they would not have to pay anything towards homeowners insurance.
This of course was just an option and they are free to choose to move with us or move here to be closer to their mom. I am staying as neutral as possible. (I can't stand my sister.)
Well, I guess their dad wants to talk to me when I get home from work about transferring custody to me until she's 18. Not gonna lie I'm slightly terrified. I don't know how to approach this. E is ecstatic.
What should I write down as both pros and cons to this situation so I can give E, K, and their dad a fair picture of expectations if this did happen?
My husband and I are child free so I think that's partially why they are so keen on this.
TL;DR: 17 year old niece and my 22 year old nephew want to move in with my husband and I when we move. Husband and I are child free. Dad wants to talk to me tomorrow night to discuss transferring custody. I've been the "fun" aunt since I was 9 and I'm slightly terrified. What should I bring up for both sides of the conversation both for and against?
Submitted April 09, 2022 at 10:19PM by SharkieGirl https://ift.tt/TxPdA64
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