We've been together since we were kids (16) so we were bound to change and grow as people but it feels like my husband has changed for the worse.
We have 3 kids who are 8, 11 and 13 and he just feels like one of the kids to me. He's become painfully insecure and needy. If I forget to kiss him on his way out the door in the morning he will sulk for hours. If a few minutes pass where I don't speak he will think there is something wrong with me. Divorce laws changed the other day in the UK. After listening to the news I said "Oh, isn't this good news" and he jumped down my throat saying "Great, now its easier for you to leave me".
I've never given him any reason I'm leaving, I've never cheated, I've never said I want to be with someone else, I've never even walked out. He's just become intolerable to live with.
I take care of everything in the house along side a full time job and I'm just exhausted with his constant needy behaviour. He's also become very unhappy over the past 10 years, he hates his job (and that's every job he's had), he's put weight on and won't lose it despite saying how much he hates the way he looks. He makes me manage his diet yet when I tell him he's eating bad he snaps at me. I've suggested he speaks to someone, a doctor, a psychiatrist, a friend but he just says no.
At the moment I'm in the process of selling my late fathers house, I'm dealing with my son's bullying and also have an ongoing issue with my elderly Grandad not being cared for very well who we went to see over the weekend. Yet when we got back on Saturday night we spend 4 hours talking how his feelings, how he feels like I'm not a caring wife, how I need to be working on being more affectionate towards him. I'm so tired with the marriage, I'm not going to leave but I just need a break.
tl;dr: Husband has become so insecure, needy and unhappy and its taking it toll on me.
Submitted April 11, 2022 at 03:35AM by funnypumpkin https://ift.tt/bKhBI7w
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