Fiancé [M45] goes out 3-4 nights a week since pandemic ended, I’m [32F] having trouble at home by myself.

So I’m even more of an extrovert than my fiancé, but due to recent circumstances, I’m finding myself at home a lot. Two of my closest friends just moved out of state during October. My best friend and I had a falling out. I’m not doing great emotionally and feeling very alone.

Enter my fiancé stage left. He goes out dancing two nights a week with his friends, and socializing one or two other nights, they all meet up at the same bar. It’s actually the bar where we met. But the thing is, I just don’t super get along with this group of people. I’ve tried and they aren’t bad people, but none of them ever ask me about myself or really talk to me more than 5 minutes of catching up. Other than our interests in dancing and knowing my fiancé, I don’t have a lot in common with them. They are all quite cliquey and mostly talk about their own lives or friend drama.

Yeah, I try to not let it get to me, but it doesn’t help that half of them are good looking women in their 20s/30s who love dancing with my fiancé.

Going to this bar is just not that fun for me. In between a few dances, I just find myself staring at my phone a lot waiting to talk to my boyfriend since he’s either dancing or talking to his friends when he’s not with me. I don’t like leaning on him socially like that, in any other instance I can occupy myself socially, I’m pretty outgoing and friendly.

I don’t know what to do. I hate being at home by myself lately to the point I end up very depressed and anxious at times. I lived alone for years and this is the first partner I’ve lived with, so it’s not like I don’t know how to be independent. But I wish I could either be with him or be having fun. I don’t relish the time spent on the couch with my dog.

Could I just go do something else by myself? Sure, and I do, but it’s difficult to constantly have separate plans every night my fiancé does. I can only keep a calendar so full. I only have so many friends that have time to hang out like that.

He doesn’t neglect me and does spend quality time with me. I don’t want him to not see his friends. I don’t really know what to even ask him for.

Tl;dr I have recently found myself without 3 of my closest friends. I don’t really get along with my fiancé’s friends, though I really have tried. He spends a lot of nights out with them a week. Not sure what to do as I feel very alone.

Submitted October 31, 2021 at 10:15PM by 3LeftTurnip https://ift.tt/3jVoIBy