And he says that it feels pressuring/makes him want to run. He says I’m needy. My recent ex [32/M] also said this.
My current boyfriend is not a bad guy. We’ve been dating 6 months. But I see some red flags-
1)He tells me that he has never said “I love you” to a girl, even though he has dated 2 other girls 2 years each. He says his parents barely told him they love him growing up. 2)He lives in a house with multiple roommates. One is a catty girl he used to be FWB with. He is considering renewing the lease with her in August, living with her another year, despite me feeling uncomfortable with it... 3)He says he may never want to get married, because he’s afraid the girl will take all his money from him if they get divorced, rambles on how the courts/system are against men 4)”I may never want to live together, I need my own space” 5)Tells me that if I ever accidentally got pregnant (we joke about it) that he would have nothing to do with me, not even pay child support.
My ex (32/M) would give red flags too- “I’m sick. I’m a sex addict,” would catch him excessively talking to other girls, and another one with “I don’t know if marriage is for me, I may just want a girlfriend for a long time,” he also asked me if he could watch another guy have sex with me in one occasion.
I guess what I’m trying to say is- I see red flags all over the place that my boyfriend doesn’t take our relationship seriously. I feel that my “pressuring” attitude is a result of that? Like, I’m seeing that the longevity of it is probably not there. But yet I care/enjoy my time with him. Maybe I am wrong though? Maybe you are supposed to just spend the first year “having fun” and then worry about the other stuff later? Someone told me- Maybe AFTER spending a year of fun that he would change his views because by then he’d be more invested
TLDR; how do you stop investing too much too soon?
Submitted May 01, 2021 at 05:31AM by tiny94x https://ift.tt/3xIxd87
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