So for context, down the street from where I live is a metaphysical shop, they sell ~hippie~ clothes, tarot cards, crystals ect. My gf and I really love going to this shop but recently when we walk past I've been avoiding going in there because it puts my gf in a sour mood.
The reason for this is that my gf really loves the clothes there and will always try something on, but this shop only has sizes 2-10 and my gf is around a 12-14 (Australian sizes) so nothing ever fits her. It doesn't help that she will only try on the size 8 which she clearly isn't, and then get in a bad mood because shes (in her words) "too fat to fit into any of these clothes". I constantly tell her to try things on in her size, I go out of my way to find shops that carry her sizes and sell the clothes she likes. Shes constantly going on about her weight saying that's she's overweight and ugly, which she straight up isn't! A size 14 is literally average! And I have no idea how to help her I can say that her weight is fine and normal but she then just gets angry at me! And when I try to show her beautiful clothes that are her style and size she just blows me off and says that it makes her look "massive" She's struggled with body image issues her whole life and I empathise and understand that it's not easy and I really feel for her because she's a beautiful person and I wish she could have confidence in herself but her weight issues are starting to affect our relationship. I can't go to the metaphysical shop with her anymore because she will always leave in a bad mood and will be snappy at me for the rest of the day, and I can't take her out for brunch or anything because she complains she has nothing to wear. I've just stopped trying at this point because it feels useless, I've suggested therapy but she won't go, I've even said that I need her to go to therapy for our relationship but no dice. So we just sit at home on the internet all day, missing the summer fun. How can I deal with her weight issues? Am I being to pushy are hard on her? I can't deal with being on the sidelines because of her insecurity.
TL;DR My gfs body image issues is beginning to affect our relationship and bring me down, help??
Submitted January 08, 2021 at 05:52PM by Ephemeral_Afterglow https://ift.tt/35oiGlC
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