TLDR at the bottom:
My boyfriend (m28) and i (f29) have been together for nearly a year and everything has been amazing. He's my ideal guy in every way.
To give background information, he is about 6ft, lean but muscular and VERY good looking. Dark blonde hair, light blue eyes, full beard. One friend said he was like a cross breeding of Paul Rudd and Chris Evans but not Marvel-ripped. He is hands down the best looking man I've ever been with.
I'm built very differently. I'm thoroughly plus size, 5'7 and a size 24. My self esteem is pretty high, i dont feel insecure about my body anymore. I'm very active in the bopo community. He tells me I'm beautiful and I believe him.
The problem isnt that i dont think I'm good enough for him. Its that strangers apparently do.
He and I go out, doesnt matter where, and without fail at some point someone will either say something or give us dirty looks and he NEVER notices. Ever. He is just enjoying our time together.
But I notice. Maybe it's because I was bullied growing up for my size so I expect it. Maybe it's because I'm the real target of this low key harassment. But i notice it every time and it bothers me a LOT. Not in a way that shakes my self esteem or makes me doubt us, but it makes me mad that anyone would say anything. The majority of thr people saying things seem to be teenagers or women in their 20s.
Some examples: -disgusted looks -looking at me and then laughing -"its so sad when the hot ones are chubby chasers" -"maybe she is just his sister?" -"thats not right" -"he could do so much better"
As a result, ive started dressing up a little more, doing more makeup or styling my hair when we go out. At heart I'm a casual girl, usually i would just wear my naturally curly hair and some mascara in a sundress and be fine and he would think i am gorgeous. But its like lately i feel like i need to look my best so people will leave me alone while we are out.
But what has mainly happened is that guys will openly hit on me, or just stare at my chest/legs/ass. Its turned me into a piece of meat for random dudes, I don't feel flattered, and the extra attention has bothered my boyfriend. Hes not a jealous/insecure/possessive person but nobody likes to see their significant other get hit on.
I'm not sure what to do. He doesnt notice the looks and the snide remarks and sometimes he thinks I exaggerate because he has never been the target of bullying so he just...has no idea. And the only thing i can think to do is just creating different issues for him. How do i reconcile this??
Tl;dr: I'm fat and my boyfriend is fit. We get judged/shaded in public a lot. He doesnt notice it but it bothers me a LOT. How do i handle this situation?
EDIT: Every person on here trolling about weight loss is being thoroughly ignored. That kind of talk doesn't bother me at all. I keep my ass nice and big so certain people can kiss it ;)
Also if anyone has an opinion on the trip to see my parents, Id love to hear your advice... on THAT post.
Submitted April 25, 2019 at 11:03AM by easy0lucky0free http://bit.ly/2W8fy6z
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