My [27 f] grilfriend has at some point just decided, that i [22 m], own her money on a monthly basis. More Info inside

Im together with my girlfriend for about 18 month now. Shes living on her own and i with my parents. Because of our different job schedules, we see each other about twice a week (the average if you want to call it that, is probably closer to 2.5 times).

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Its usually me staying at her place for atleast 1 night of the week, while the second or third day we see each other, were doing something toigehter. Sometimes i dont go back to her place after we have been somewhere, hiking, cinema, etc. etc.

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When we are out eating, or doing something, we normally take turns paying but its more often then not, that i will take care of the bills if im in a situation to do so. I never wanted to keep track of it, i dont think that is in any way healthy for our relationship. I also tend to spend twice or trice the amount of money on presents for her.

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I tell you all of that, because about 6 months ago, never talked about it before, she wanted to have 15€ a month from me. She says its for food and electricity.

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Thats not a whole lot of money to me, but it kinda stinks. Besides everything thats writte above and also me paying our netflix (which is like 12€), i feel like she is implying we are not equally committing to this relationship financially.

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Im certain im not eating for 15€ in month, most of the time im at her place, we are either eating nothing or we order or get something on the way. So on top of the way she just randomnly decided this, its also such an abstract number. Just 2 days ago i got us food from the supermarket, we made burger, and it was about 18€ for the 2 of us with ingridients that will last her a bit longer. She didnt offer to split the bill but could *remind me* to pay her the 15€. Thats just absurd to me.

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I feel like what im doing for her, paying whenever i can and going out of my way for her presents etc. and then getting this *bill* like we arent financially even, it just feels wrong and unfair. Im being honest here, if she would have talked to me about it, that she just needs a little money to help her pay the bills or anything, i could not be bothered to even think about not giving her the money. But the way it is, it just feels weired and unfair.

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So, what do you guys think about this ?

TL;DR : My SO wants 15€/month from me, even though im certain im spending more on her/us than she is. Never talked about it beforehand. Feels weird and unfair, am i wrong in believing so ?

Submitted April 26, 2019 at 07:23PM by wegwerfen30 http://bit.ly/2PAlL95