GF's (17F) Mom went through her phone last night and (potentially) saw all the very dirty text messages I (18M) sent to her and she sent to me

Hi,

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This is bad. Just to get it out the way, I turned 18 March 23 so I've only been an adult for like a week, although I know that in the eyes of the law that doesn't matter, but we've been together 8 months so I'm not like a predator or something like that.

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Okay, so my girlfriend and I are part of a religious community, and we do not want to have sex before marriage. I promised her dad this before we started dating, and it hasn't really been an issue. They have talked to us before because I was getting too comfy on her couch with her apparently and they didn't like that, and they're VERY VERY VERY protective and don't like us being in the same room alone for even like 3 minutes.

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However, of course her and I make out and stuff, we're just sneaky about it. We also text very often, and as little as two or three days ago I texted her telling her that I really wanted to make out with her and that I miss the taste of her tongue and the feeling of her nipples in my mouth (I am going to die). A WEEK or so ago we were texting about me fingering her and stuff (which we just did once about two weeks ago and we agreed not to again). All in all, this looks very very very very very very very very bad.

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So of course last night her mom went through her phone at 1:57 in the morning (it was on Whatsapp so I could she that she was active then) and now we're freaking out. She has a password on her phone but her parents know it (I was not aware of that). For the sake of full disclosure, the phone is hers. I bought it for her for valentines day and gifted it to her so it fully belongs to her. This is a crazy breach of trust and honestly I don't know how I didn't see this happening since her parents are FREAKING CONTROLLING PSYCHOS.

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I love her, and I told her that if her parents told her to break up with me I would still lover her and we could date secretly for the rest of the school year. We attend different schools but the same church, and this summer we're going to be attending the same university. She is turning 18 in November and after then she'll have more options but right now she's still 17 and fully dependent on them.

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Also, about two years ago her dad thought she was with a guy (she wasn't, this is the first relationship for both of us), and when she got home they got into an argument and he hit her a lot. I'm concerned that this will happen again if he finds out about the texts. She has an old phone I gave her tucked under her bed in case of emergencies so that if something happens she has a way of reaching me. I'm supposed to go to their house today but if they know then it's going to go really really badly, and my best friends car isn't working so if I end up needing backup I'll be screwed (jk lol, I'm dead no matter what).

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WHAT THE ACTUAL HECK DO WE DO?????

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thanks

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Edit: To clarify, I'm much more concerned about her safety and our relationship with her parents moving forward than I am about my possible and unlikely legal punishment.

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tl;dr: GF's mom read "sexy" texts between us (probably) and we have no idea what the heck we need to do.

Submitted April 01, 2019 at 07:21AM by sammy4427 https://ift.tt/2WBk8dt