I(27 from Japan) and my BF(33 from UK) have been dating 2 years. We were finally okay to talk about our past after 2years. And he talked about his university friendship with his female classmate.
My BF played with her and another female friend by using remote control sex toy during university class without any romantic feeling. He and the one friend were controlling it and another one was sitting a little bit far. He saw her trembling as he controlled the level of the toy, he even controlled it when she talked to their professor. And he felt “being dominant is my joy” through this experience.
He says it meant nothing to both of them. But is this not super weird in western world?
I asked her name and he didn’t wanna tell it cuz it can cause drama. But he told me anyway and I found out that one of his best friends that he still keeps in touch with.
I felt how can he be her friend still after this...? He says, she has good heart and she is a nice person. That’s why, one day, he wants me to meet her.
I feel it was so stupid if I saw her without knowing anything. (I’ve never met her yet) Now I know that she is the woman that he sexually played with. How can I talk to her normally and smile at her...
For me, this is not friendship anymore. It is the line that he shouldn’t have crossed.
I explained all my feelings and he understood my side. He said he would suffer if he was in my position and wouldn’t be able to ok to meet the friend.
After this talk, I am still having so much trouble to understand “It is okay to play with that kind of toy between friends”... Can anyone give me advice to make me digest this whole situation easier...?
TL;DR I’m Japanese and my BF is from UK. He played with sex toy with his best female friend when he was younger. And he still keeps in touch with her. I cannot accept the friendship at all. Any advice to take this situation less stressful?
Submitted March 26, 2019 at 08:08PM by alwayskittycat https://ift.tt/2YvPUKy
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