I [24F] feel disconnected from my relationship with my boyfriend [23M] when we are apart, but happy when together.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost four years and it has been amazing but also had it’s up and downs. He is my first love and my first real relationship. We are polar opposites but balance each other out very well.

But recently I have been feeling very disconnected from my relationship. To the point where it is the last thing on my mind. My boyfriend and I don’t live together, and we have very different schedules now. I have tried to make efforts into saying we should start to plan to move in together and he always agrees but action is never taken on his side.

I have gone through some major changes recently in my career and appearances and feel as if he is being left behind and I hate that. As if he is happy with just being the same. He says I am the best thing to ever happen to him but I just wish he found other things to make him happy as well just as I have done.

Whenever we are apart I don’t check up on him as often anymore but whenever we are together our relationship is amazing. Our sex life is good and we get each other so well. But I just can’t help thinking how different I am now than I was four years ago, and how he has basically stayed the exact same (works, eats badly, smokes weed everyday, stays home, doesn’t hang out with anyone but his brother who he lives with, etc)

I’m starting to worry that I am just staying in the relationship because it’s secure, and I don’t want to think that. Should I leave the relationship if I’m thinking this? I also really enjoy talking to other people and conversing with them more than my own boyfriend now and that scares me.

TL;DR: I don’t think about my relationship anymore when I’m alone but am super into it once I am physically with him.

Submitted March 28, 2019 at 02:33AM by youlooklikeguyfieri https://ift.tt/2FCZKSf