My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have been out of high school for almost 2 years now. I am currently a sophomore in college and work 25 hours/week on my school campus. My boyfriend hasn’t had a job since leaving high school nor is he attending college. He’s basically just been laying around at his parents’ house smoking weed all day.
I pay for every single date, his expenses and mine. He hasn’t spent a penny on us in 2 years. I feel like I am being used. He doesn’t have his license or a car, so I’m always driving him places using my car and gas. If we go to a restaurant or on a date it’s just expected now that I will pay. He hands me the check and doesn’t even say thank you anymore. I have spent thousands of dollars on us. I can’t keep doing this because I have other responsibilities such as insurance and school.
He has anxiety and depression, and I think he is using that as an excuse to not work. I recently found out that he’s been spending any money that his parents give him on pills and buying his friends cough medicine (which he hid from me).
I tried to communicate to him how this makes me feel. I don’t feel special at all as his girlfriend. I told him that I feel like he’s using me and doesn’t respect my money. He hasn’t treated me to a date or a dinner in 2 years or even paid one time. He promised me it won’t always be like this but doesn’t do anything to change it.
What should I do? Any comments or advice is greatly appreciated. Despite everything, I really do love him. I just don’t know how to motivate him when he doesn’t want to help himself...
TL;DR: My boyfriend doesn’t work or seek work and hasn’t paid for a date in 2 years while spending the little money he has on drugs and I’m feeling emotionally and financially drained.
Submitted November 27, 2018 at 09:06AM by taranator11 https://ift.tt/2FKIFtb
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