One of the biggest problems I see among men is the lack of a positive mindset abundance mentality. This is one of the biggest and most important foundations of TRP. There are hundreds of sidebar material on abundance mentality but a huge percentage of men, even on this sub struggle with it. What do most men have in common with low abundance? Why do they struggle with it? Well because it’s simple they the mindset to succeed. Guys fail to realize that abundance mentality is a postive mindset that you should applying to everything in your life. You know what almost all of these men suffer from? These four thoughts constantly circulating through their heads.
- Why does nothing ever go my way
- If I just had this (job/car/girl/house) I would be happy
- Am I good enough
- Why does everyone always get what they want, and I don’t
Everyone at some point in their lives have suffered with these thoughts. I suffer with these thoughts sometimes.
Let’s look at some examples of how these thoughts can dictate your life.
Steve feels like he made an extra 50k a year that he would be happy because he could buy the car he always wanted, make his wife happy and his parents would be proud of him for finally making 6 figures. He no longer had to be jealous of his friends for making more money than him and could finally feel as he was “Keeping with the Joneses.” However what Steve failures to realize is that the extra money wouldn’t make him happy, it would just cause his problems to change. His wife will become unhappy because now they need to remodel their house. Steve is unhappy with his new car because he doesn’t have a newer model. Steve’s parents are unhappy because they feel he needs to now make even more money.
This past year, I became obsessed with becoming an investment banker in New York. The reason for this is because my freshman year of college I read on WSO that if I had become a banker in a top group, I would make 160k out of college and after 2 years I could move to a private equity mega fund and make 400k my second year there and my fourth year out of college. My school being on the west coast I obsessively worked and networked in order to achieve this. Because of this my grades dropped, and I started to isolate myself socially. I neglected even looking at other internships because they weren’t good enough. In the end I got super lucky do to a crazy circumstance and into a top group on wall street which would enable me to complete my goal. I could've failed and been left with zilch. However, I did it at the expense of my own well-being. I am on the verge of losing my scholarship because my grades dropped, and I lost some of my core friends for blowing them off for months. Well it turns out after all of this that I hate my internship and will turn down a full-time offer at the end of the summer. (Will delve into more details of my internship if anyone is interested).
Like Steve I put my happiness and self-worth based on career prestige. I worked so hard to get it that I neglected other important aspects of my life and let them go into free fall. I lost my abundance mindset. This caused me to develop a scarcity mentality.
Everyday 100s of new guys find TRP. They learn about all the skills they need in order to improve their life. However, guys who know red pill knowledge inside an out not making a difference in their lives. Every day I see tons of guys on AskTRP, posting the same questions over and over about what to do about this girl or how to get over/fuck oneitis or if they should wait 12 minutes and 44 seconds to respond to some text from a girl. Experienced Red Pillers like myself and others will usually give them advice or criticism to which they will refute (as if they know more) or take. But me giving some newbie 18 year old a solution to a minor question is like me giving him painkillers and a cast for a broken arm so he can keep playing in the football game. We are just putting a band aid on the problem and not fixing the root cause of rearranging or replacing the bone so it can build itself to be stronger at the core. Eventually without fixes his arm will snap in the game and he will end up even worse off as before (I’m sure you guys know what happens when low SMV or overly aggressive guys try applying red pill techniques to girls).
So how do you fix this mentality. Well the first step is to cut out negative thoughts of your life. If you suffer from the thoughts above, its time to change your mindset. If other people succeed and you don’t, instead of finding reasons to to hate on them, find out why you aren’t doing as well. If you know has something good going for them, look at your own life and see what great things you have going for you. Write down your thoughts every night. Chances are if you have the ability to read this post, your quality of life is better than 90% of the world population.
There has never been a better time to live in history than in America in 2018. Yet so many fucking people are depressed. My advice to not fall into the trap of negative thoughts above is to get off your fucking phones/xboxes/laptops and go do things outdoors. I remember good old days back in elementary school in the 2000s, the guys and I used to go airsofting in the park next to our houses. Nobody cared as long as we stayed in a certain area. Can you imagine if kids were doing this today. Police would probably come and threaten to kill us and neighbors would file complaints. In middle school we’d have bonfires at the beach and flirt with girls. Its sad what the world is coming to. Now all I see is teens sitting on their phones in circles. This past weekend, my favorite plate came to visit me. Instead of sitting in doors fucking like some guys want to do with their plates, we snuck on the roof of my building to drink champagne and rented a duffy boat so we could go cruise around the Hudson. Go out and explore. My best ever memories was running doing crazy things.
The final thing is stop living for validation. You know what the difference between real men vs everyone else is. We don’t need to live for validation. The same guys who post on AskTRP about how to fuck their oneitis or so are the same guys who are obsessed with validation. Why is that? Well the only reason they want to fuck them is to show them they are worthy enough for them. Who gives a fuck what your oneitis thinks. They are only bring you down. Axe them from your life. Every time I check social media, I always see the same shit. Hot girls I know posting selfies so 100s of guys can comment how amazing they are. Self absorbed frat guys (not all of us are) posting pictures of their sorority slut girlfriends about how much they love them or kissing them. Cool, while your getting controlled by your slutty girlfriend, I fucked her six ways from sunday our freshman year before she started the CC and got out when I wanted to. Show them off as much as you like. So how do you fix this mindset. Start staying congruent in your own beliefs. Trust your own mindset and don’t let your ideas and actions controlled by others. So you're a Trump supporter great. You don’t need to announce about it but don’t change your beliefs so you can impress and fuck some SJW girl. Control your own thoughts and you’ll soon realize the only person you need validation from is yourself.
Putting this all together. Your lack of failure isn’t because you aren’t good-looking, muscular, social or whatever, it's because you lack the mindset to succeed. If you are deficient in the areas fix them. Develop the abundance mentality and a positive mindset, not just for women like most guys here do but in all areas of your life. Before college I suffered from an extremely negative mindset and let people walk all over me. Once I discovered TRP, I began to change my mentality and soon began to do things I didn’t think were possible given where I had come from. Now instead of me being an afterthought, I became respected amongst everyone. Funny how guys who shit on self-improvement and TRP are the same guys who come to me for advice everyday. They are also the same guys who reject this advice I give them and continue to fail in life. Be a winner and a doer not a loser and a schmoozer as my grandpa would say.
I’m not gonna lie, it took me a long time to write this. I was supposed to go out tonight but ended up spending a few hours on this. Why did I spend so much time? Because I want to help you guys because I want to see everyone here succeed. In fact in writing this I learned as much about all the struggles I’ve faced over the past 9 months or so.
Submitted July 28, 2018 at 02:51AM by flashcash12 https://ift.tt/2AjJF4M
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