I wasn't going to post this but I'm so tired of this situation i needed to talk to someone.
I will soon be moving to the US to be with my boyfriend so we can get married.
About a year ago hes started to show signs of being controlling.
He threw a fit every time I wanted to get the covid vaccine, because he thinks its poison, that I'm slowly killing myself, that the vaccine will give me AIDS etc. Every time i got a vaccine/booster it caused a huge argument. I've never been an antivaxxer and never will be.
Like 3 or 2 months ago he started being very persistent about me quitting birth control because he's convinced this is the reason why my health is not doing well. I have Bile reflux, its pretty bad and I have a sore throat almost everyday. I've had this since I was 21 and I didn't start birth control until I was 27, the BC never made my reflux worse but somehow he's convinced that if I quit my reflux will get better.
When I've said i wont do what he wants me to like not get vaccinated or quit the BC, he'll say this every single time "Then i wont care about your health and I wont have any empathy for you if you get sick"
Today it was way too much, he's trying to control what i eat now, he said that he wont allow any food with vegetable oil in his house and that if I buy anything with veggie oil he'll grab it and throw it in the trash. He started to follow this PUFA free diet after reading ray peat.
Today he also said he doesn't want to have sex with me if I'm on birth control because it goes against the church and that he'd talk to the priest about it cause he needs advice as this is something "that's been bothering him and on his mind a lot". I'm not quitting birth control.
I'm sick of this shit, I've been very patient with him but I'm sick of it. I'll be leaving my home country to be with him and I'm forced to depend on him until I get my work permit which takes like 6 to 9 months I believe.
I love him but this is way more than I can handle, i keep telling myself we will work on it and things will get better if we just talk about it but the same argument keeps happening like every 3 weeks.
He says all of these things he's doing is because he cares about me and wants to protect me.
TL;DR boyfriend is trying to control whether i get vaccinated, take BC and eating habits to protect me.
Submitted April 02, 2022 at 09:48PM by Top_Lobster_141 https://ift.tt/9NBkCVx
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