I (F27) married someone who turned out to be completely different from how he (M29) presented himself during LDR

This is a throwaway account because my husband knows my main one. Also sorry for the grammar as Im not a native english speaker.

My now husband (M29) and I (F27) were in a LDR for about 5 years. He visited me twice before the pandemic. He was really sweet, gentle and I couldn't wish for more. During that time, I was very busy with my studies and he was busy with his apprenticeship. We were very supportive of each other. When I graduated, he convinced me to study his language (to be able to marry in his country) instead of me enrolling in a review center to take the board exam. I did exactly that and thankfully I was able to pass the language exam.

Fast forward to 2022, I flew to his country last month and we got married. I dont know if Im feeling homesick or I'm starting to question my decisions. When I got here, the first week he was nice but after we got married, he started to be distant. He is always on his computer and he would just play video games during his free time. He works MWF in their office and TTH at home. When he has to work in the office, I wake up at 4am to prepare his food but he would always leave without bringing the food I packed for him and would just claim that he forgot. Whatever I cook, he has something to say against it. Too less salt, too much salt. Not enough meat, too much rice. Literally always complaining about whatever I try to prepare.

He used to tell me I love you every single day but now he rarely says I love you anymore. I have to force him, else I would just be left hanging. I have to force him to kiss me or spend some time with me. He told me I'm way too clingy for him and always pushes me away when I try to come near him or ask for some time together.

In those five years of us being in LDR, I dont know if I just created an image of him. I never thought he would act the same way he does now. I am so confused. I never imagined I'd start questioning the very same thing I used to pray for and since I went here to marry him after I graduated, I dont have any savings so I can't just leave or run away. I dont know anyone here, I dont even speak their language fluently. I feel so alone.

TLDR: I married someone not knowing who he really is and now I have nowhere to go.

Submitted April 02, 2022 at 03:46PM by Throwawayyy7358 https://ift.tt/0m1HF8I