My gf and I (f) both in our late 20s have been dating for a while now and things are perfect . We both can’t imagine a life without the other . However we are not seeing eye to eye and I’m feeling disregarded and coheres into a bedroom role that is not me and I don’t like
. She has past trauma so it’s really been whenever she’s ready which is fine by all means totally cool with it and prefer her to be ready And comfortable . The issue is her constantly trying to put me in a submissive space which is not me and makes me uncomfortable with some of things she’s wanting
. I’d be more willing to try if it was on equal planes but she doesn’t want the same return . This is making me feel just bad I don’t even have the words exactly. We’ve had conversations in the past about what we like and what we don’t and hard no and yes stuff and it’s just like she hasn’t listened at all or has put this idea of me in her head that isn’t actually me despite me telling her directly
. I think it’s fine to experiment with things you like and don’t but this is becoming a very not so good experience for me . She has hardly any experience with same sex which is also fine and not a problem at all . I consider my self patient and understanding but I’m really reaching my limits with her constantly trying to put me in this small sub space. I’m just not sure what to even do .
It feels icky and harsh to say no if I can’t do it you can’t and I want her to be able to explore herself and wants but like we’ve had so many decent conversations about my preferences which all seem like no to do her but she should be able to do it to me ? I’m just lost on what to do and navigate this correctly without no sex , making her or myself upset and uncomfortable and being unfair
TL;DR gf wants only wants to do sexual things I don’t like and nothing I do . Not sure how to proceed
Submitted April 05, 2022 at 09:29PM by Veronica_voorhees https://ift.tt/dgcbhmz
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