I'm mainly looking for thoughts on whether I'm just being petty and spoiled (99% sure I am), or whether I have a legitimate reason to feel hurt at not being invited on a "family" vacation.
For background, about 6 years ago I found out that my stepdad had a secret daughter (from a relationship years ago) who finally got track of him and he has since introduced to the family (i.e. myself, my two stepbrother and my Mom). My Mom actually knew about her for years but hadn't met her until 6 years ago when it was revealed to the rest of us. My Mom and I have really been close for years (pre-stepdad), given my biological Dad was absent for most of my life. We typically go on vacation once or twice a year just to hang out and have a good time, and a couple of times we have had Mom's best friend Carrie along as well.
Anyways, a few months ago my stepdad asked secret daughter what she wanted for her birthday and she asked for a trip abroad. He agreed to pay for it if my Mom would take her - Mom agreed, suggested they go to “Australia” (not Australia but for the sake of the story) and invited my Mom's aforementioned friend Carrie to join them. As noted already, I wasn't invited on the trip - and they've been going over every detail of their plans. Just as another element to mention, I went to “Australia” a few years ago for work and since then had been telling my Mom how much I wanted to go with her, show her the sights, etc. Thus I was particularly hurt I wasn't invited on this trip with secret daughter and Carrie (especially given how much I'd specifically talked about “Australia” with her), and disappointed to feel excluded in general from what felt like it could have been fun for all of us. Of course my Mom asked for a ton of advice on what to do and see there, and me trying to be mature about it, I helped out a lot with the COVID requirements and what sorts of things they might be most interested in seeing.
So long story short, am I being silly for feeling hurt by the fact I wasn't invited on this trip? My Mom does a lot for me, takes me plenty of places, etc., and I feel like this shouldn't matter. They're back now and all I've heard about is how much fun they had and what an amazing trip it was. I'm feeling kind of disconnected from my Mom now and I guess jealous (ugh) and just want to get over it.
TL:DR - Mom invited newly found step-sister and Mom's friend on trip and not me - right to be hurt or not?
Edit: Sorry to those who commented on the Australia part of the story. I was trying to keep this somewhat anonymous and of course chose a location that’s currently closed to visitors. They went somewhere fairly equally difficult/far/extravagant but not Oz. Apologies for fudging the facts and appreciate all the input thus far. Still feel bothered by it but seems the consensus is the whole thing is not a big deal.
Submitted October 25, 2021 at 11:54AM by throwawwwway878787 https://ift.tt/3vKpN3L
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