Reasonable or an overreaction? Boyfriend believes I don’t trust him as I didn’t stay quiet when he shushed me.

My (27f) boyfriend (27m) and I had a fight the other night. It was late at night and we were chatting in bed before going to sleep. He had been out drinking with friends prior, though he was not wasted. While I’m saying something he suddenly shushes me mid-sentence. I got confused and felt a bit disrespected so I instantly asked why (I admit that I was reactive and got defensive). He said he wanted to listen as he thought he had heard our flatmate close his window (quite a random thing I think). He then got annoyed that I hadn’t hushed instantly and decided that it meant I didn’t trust him. I tried to say that it is a lot more nuanced then that. For example, had we been walking home at night and he shushed I would instantly be quiet as I am aware of my surroundings at all times. However, at home I feel safe. He kept insisting that it shows that I don’t trust him, and that he couldn’t have waited until I was finished speaking as the sound would’ve been gone. Any thoughts on this are welcome as I don’t know what’s reasonable in this scenario.

TL;DR Boyfriend shushed me, but I didn’t stay quiet. He means this shows that I don’t fully trust him. I disagree.

Submitted September 24, 2021 at 12:53PM by louisa1290 https://ift.tt/3mg2z1h