I moved in with my boyfriend and his best friend about 6 months ago. All of this was planned and talked through between the three of us. Originally, we split rent evenly between the 3 of us—but our roommate had the opportunity to purchase the house we rented, and did. It was discussed that rent would be close to the same (+-$200), as the mortgage wouldn’t cost much more than rent/utilities did.
Now my boyfriend and I are paying double what we paid before. This was sprung on us after the mortgage was finalized. It has been financially tough but with adjustments in budget, manageable. However, a few months back I saw a letter from the bank laying out on the kitchen counter and discovered we are actually paying for the entire mortgage.
This has weighed heavily on me/us. Our house is shared—but not exactly. We have the smallest bedroom (half size of roommate) we don’t get to have our own bathroom (roommate flip flops between the 2 bathrooms—I never know which is “okay” to use—especially while getting ready for work/showering, as he showers in both and keeps various tools/products in each and gets visibly upset if I’m in his way)
I’m not allowed to decorate, I’m not allowed to leave any personal items in “shared” spaces—last time I left my jacket and purse in the living room, they were thrown on the floor in front of my bedroom door. I am not a messy roommate; I lightly clean every day and deep clean the entire house once or twice per week.
In addition, my boyfriend and I spend over $500/month on organic groceries, which are freely eaten and I will occasionally get a Venmo for ~$50 toward them.
I’ve discussed our living situation with my boyfriend numerous times, but he just gets sad and worried. He’s expressed concern in talking to our roommate as our roommate tends to have emotional issues and struggles with confrontation of any kind. He also worries about leaving his best friend alone/behind to move out on our own.
I’ve been trying to just accept the changes and bite my tongue, but the stress is really getting to me. Every day, I spend more time hiding in the tiny bedroom I pay thousands for, worrying about what the future holds. I can see and feel myself slipping into depression.
TLDR: I love my boyfriend and our relationship, but I’m deeply unhappy in our living situation with his best friend and don’t know what to do for the time being/future.
Submitted September 25, 2021 at 04:21PM by Icy_Prune9791 https://ift.tt/3kPcpYt
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