Me n my bf got into an argument about communicating last night that got heated. When we talk we have fun chats but a lot of times, I feel he's talking "at" me- he's always going on long tangents and stories, changing the subject a lot, and then when I try to talk he either interrupts or looks like he's not listening/ fidgeting or even goes to get out his phone, which I've told him bothers me and he says "I'm just looking up something about our convo" I just feel like he's only "waiting to talk" so when I try to tell him how I feel he gets really angry and says I'm making him feel self conscious and that he's "walking on eggshells" and tries to turn it around on me saying I'm the annoying one. Sometimes I don't even have the energy as he's talking and just want quiet and he gets upset, saying I'm "telling him when he should talk" So this happened again last night as we were drinking, and he got really mad and threw his alcoholic drink in my face while we were outside which really hurt/stung my eyes and made me cry and he barely apologized and kept wanting to talk, I made him sleep on the couch but don't know where to go from here. He just lost his fulltime job and I think he's taking it out on me. I feel disrespected and so hurt. I really don't wanna break up as things have been wonderful otherwise, but I kinda feel he resents me a little bit (he moved over a state to live with me after we were in a long distance relationship for a while) He said last night I "made him come down" I know alcohol played a role in the hurtful things he said but his outburst at me made me think we need distance/ space, he's gotten angry but never like this and I feel he's been really immature and selfish. He keeps using phrases like "you keep badgering me" like I'm attacking him but I'm just trying to communicate my feelings. I feel so lost and alone. I'm going on a solo hike today to clear my head but needed to rant. I'm not sure what to do next. :(
TL; DR: Argument w/bf about communicating, he threw drink on me, unsure how to proceed w/ relationship
Submitted September 25, 2021 at 05:49AM by LangLana22 https://ift.tt/3udvAhx
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