We've been together for around a year and a half. He's gregarious, outgoing, and loves to joke, but sometimes he puts his foot in his mouth pretty hard. I love him and his family and we've all become very close.
His mother and sisters (28F and 30F) recently started asking me about our future plans. So he and I sat down and talked about it and we both thought this upcoming spring would be a good time to get engaged. We've looked at rings together and a few days ago he came home giddy and said he'd been looking at rings and was getting excited.
Last night, we were at a party with mutual friends and some strangers. I pulled out my phone to show one of my girlfriends a ring I really liked. He came over, saw what I was looking at, and started acting weird. He walked over to a table full of people we didn't know as well and made a joke along the lines of, "she's looking at rings, I had to run!"
I was humiliated and immediately deflated. He had reduced me to a "desperate girl" stereotype and made me question whether this is really what he wants. I'm so angry I don't even want to see him right now.
He says it was just a "joke," like the "old ball and chain" comments his dad makes. I've always found those jokes incredibly reductive and mean-spirited. I don't want a partnership that involves my partner publicly pretending to be burdened by me.
TL;DR my boyfriend started acting weird and made a "joke" that made me question how he actually feels about marriage.
Submitted December 15, 2019 at 02:21PM by ReallyAngryOtterGang https://ift.tt/2szHciX
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