My sister [19f] has recently discovered her boyfriend [20-somethingm] is married and hasn't emerged from her room for two days now. What can I[30m] do to help her out?

So, a bit of a long story.

My sister lived in Italy with our parents for most of her teenage years. About a year and a half ago she got her first boyfriend, an American soldier stationed in Italy.

I was maybe a bit wary of it. He was a little older and, being a former young Army private myself, I know we have a reputation for a reason. But our parents seemed fine with him so I never said anything about it.

Sis graduated in the Spring and asked if she could live at my place while she goes to college here. After moving she continued with the LDR thing with this guy.

For Winter break she went back to Italy to see our parents and her boyfriend. She was all sorts of excited to see him. She really fell hard for this guy.

Everything seemed fine up until a couple days before Christmas she abruptly called me extremely upset and asked if I minded her coming home earlier than expected. She was very, very broken up but didnt want to talk about. Of course I told her to come on home whenever she wants and she got back here on the 26th.

I called my mom the day before she got back and asked her what the hell had happened. Mom told me she had found out her boyfriend had a wife back in the US for the entire time they had been together.

Not sure what exactly went down but my mom said they both confronted him (with his wife present) in a hotel over there and it didn't go very well for anyone.

Mom also told me she is feeling pretty humiliated by the whole situation and my sister had asked her not to tell anyone what happened, and my Mom asked me to pretend I didn't know.

Anyway, Sis has been back for three days and hasnt been out of her room since. I hear her crying alot, and I try to check in now and then but she doesnt reslly want to talk. She seems to come out to nibble on some food while I'm at work but otherwise doesnt come out.

I'm sure she needs space and I'm trying to respect that, but I'm getting worried. She's young and hasnt dealt with this kind of shit before. I try to bring her food so shes eating but otherwise have mostly been leaving her alone.

Should I try and get her out of her room more? Or just let her be?

And what is the best way to help her out?

TL;DR: Sister got her heart broken by an unfaithful boyfriend. Hasnt left her room in days. What can I do for her?

Submitted December 29, 2019 at 04:40PM by Specialist-Motor https://ift.tt/35afyqD