If my husband [42] is the breadwinner, is it fair for me [40f] to do all the housework and be excluded from money matters?

Been together for 15 years and we both work from home. I work the same hours as he does but make much less because I'm in a less lucrative field, so he is the major wage earner. I do all the chores because otherwise they wouldn't get done. He sometimes helps me when I ask but I get sick of nagging him and just do them myself.

He also keeps money matters totally hidden from me which worries me because he's not the most responsible. When I earn my own money I end up spending it on housewares and practical stuff we need, but he rarely ever does this. I don't think it occurs to him.

We have been together for so long and really like each other so it's hard to have "serious" discussions that make a difference. I keep thinking that this arrangement is fair because he is the breadwinner, but sometimes it feels really unfair. Is this the way it should be and I need to get over it? And how can I broach the subject without seeming entitled, greedy, or whining?

Tl;dr-- We work same hours but he earns more. I do all the housework and cooking. I have no say in financial matters. Is this fair because he earns more money?

Submitted April 01, 2019 at 03:06PM by zzforthewin https://ift.tt/2Ue9tIX