We have been married for a year, together for 2. Just 2 days ago when he was signing into his phone I noticed him quickly exit an app he just using. That app was tinder.
I had just worked a 15 hour day, and saw this within the first half hour of arriving at home. I had an immediate melt down. He wouldn't stop insisting he did nothing wrong because he had no intentions of meeting these people. That he found it as an entertaining pass time.
I still can't believe he doesn't see anything wrong with this. I asked him to show me his tinder. He has been using this app since November. Which had me melt down even further.
I've told him if he doesn't see an issue with this when I clearly do. I cannot continue this relationship with him. I am unhappy.
For some extra context. We haven't been intimate for over a month. He will use my weight as the reason why he hasn't been as sexually attracted to me. So seeing him on tinder was another blow to my self esteem. Not only am I with a jealous man who would accuse me of being the cheater, he would also put me down because of my weight, in addition to ending sexy times because I've refused to give him anal. So finding him on tinder messaging young and thin women is really fucking with my head.
Today. Still. He is defending himself. Not giving me clear answers on why he sees the need to use this app. Why he's been on it since November. He won't even tell me if he's either deactivated or deleted the account he has now. Making it clear he has intentions of continuing to use it. I feel so fucking heart broken. I cannot even look at him the same.
Last night he was laughing at me because I was "overreacting" and still isn't taking me seriously when I say I don't want him anymore. I feel so broken down. I hate to say that I do still want him. It's become one of those cliche, my heart wants him but my brain is saying no.
I feel so lost. How do you people actually stick by your word when you say it's over? It already feels so difficult. I know if I just forgive him. This is just going to happen all over again. But I already feel so burnt out. I just want to give up.
TLDR; husband sees no issue with using tinder as a pass time. He's saying I'm overreacting as he hasn't done anything with anyone off the app.
Submitted March 28, 2019 at 10:31AM by nabiyim https://ift.tt/2FK0Tc7
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