I [18f] obliviously went on a rant about older dudes who still party with college students, in front of my teammate [20f] and her older boyfriend [30?m]

I really stuck my foot in my mouth last Saturday night

I'm on a college sports team, and we occasionally have parties. There's another girl on my team, Jenna, who hasn't often gone to the parties because she's been busy with other stuff. I don't really know her too well, she's a junior and I'm a freshman.

I was at a house party and I was pretty drunk. I was sitting with a group of girls in the living room. We were talking about other parties we've been to, and the topic turned to people who had graduated college but still attended college parties. I went on a whole rant about how there was something wrong with every older dude who still partied with college kids. How there was one guy on the fringes of my social circle who had gotten violent with a female friend of mine at a party, another who was a total creep, etc. And how gross it was, how they'd voluntarily hang out with people in a totally different stage of life. I'd imagine it would feel like me hanging out with a high school freshman or something. I said something about how weird it must feel to want to fuck someone so much younger; and how I didn't get it.

A couple of my friends agreed, and mentioned other older (Like late 20s or early 30s) guys who went to college parties. But it had been me who had done the great majority of the talking tbh.

During all this, Jenna and a guy I figured was her boyfriend but hadn't ever talked to, were sitting near us, close enough to hear. I noticed at some point that they were both staring at me but I didn't think too much of it because I was shitfaced.

The next morning, I got a text from Ellen, a girl on the team who hadn't gone to the party. She told me that she heard about how I "basically called everyone who goes to parties but isn't a college student a pedophile" in front of Jenna's boyfriend. She said it was super passive agressive and disrespectful

I texted ber back saying "Shit how old is he, is he out of college, I didn't know?"

She told me he's like 30, and I must have known and was being catty on purpose.

But I really wasn't. The party was packed, I had never talked to this guy, and he looked like he could have been a student at first glance. Plus I was super drunk and just not paying attention to who might be within earshot.

I don't know what to say, should I apologise to Jenna unprompted, and say that I feel like an idiot and didn't realize her boyfriend wasn't a student, and was close enough to overhear. Or should I wait and see if she says anything to me?

TLDR - My teammate is dating an older guy, and brought him to a college party. I obliviously complained about older people attending college parties, where he could overhear. It absolutely wasn't intentional but I'm afraid it came off as intentional.

Submitted November 14, 2018 at 05:11PM by whoops0181719 https://ift.tt/2z9VlnG