My partner and I were going through his phone together (with his consent), and I came across something that made me uncomfortable

My partner (25M) and I (24F) have been dating for about three years now. We were recently going through his phone together, with his consent. We were just being playfully petty. Unfortunately, I came across a photo of his friend (I am not friends with her but i know her through him, she used to have a crush on him but never made a move after she found out he is with me) and a cropped version of the same photo with just her cleavage in it. He told me what was up- so he shared her photo (the uncropped one) with a friend, and the friend cropped it and sent it to him. she and him were talking about how hot the girl's tits were (is what I gathered). I was a bit taken aback by this. I know friends discuss about other people being hot or attractive but this seemed like crossing the line a bit- firstly cause the girl in the photo is a friend and secondly the objectification got me a little triggered. And we've both not in been in a very good place in the relationship, we've been trying to sort some things out for a while and have not been solid together, so this probably added to the discomfort too.

I expressed myself to him, but he feels this is normal and this is how friends talk to each other. He said as long as he's not acting upon it, it is okay. He also said he would be okay if he were me in this case. I tried to look at it from his perspective too but I'm not entirely sure I agree. I'm writing this here to see if anyone feels the same as him or me or has a different perspective. Am I missing any point?

Tldr: went through partner's phone along with him, with his consent, and saw a photo of his friend that he and his other friend cropped inappropriately and made comments about. It made me uncomfortable.

Submitted April 03, 2022 at 11:43PM by idkwhatworks https://ift.tt/VNrUlIQ