My (29 F) boyfriend (31 M) receives a lot of attention from other women. It’s starting to really get to me—how do I not let this affect me/what’s the best way to react?

My boyfriend of three years is a really handsome, humble, and outgoing guy that makes friends with everyone and everywhere. He’s as friendly with females as he his with males and he doesn’t realize that he attracts women sometimes with the way he is. This honestly has never really bothered me up until recently when unfortunately I’ve become really insecure with myself (depression/changes in lifestyle/weight gain during the pandemic has heavily contributed to my insecurity but I’m doing my best to heal, get back to myself, & pull myself out of it).

I’ve always noticed from the beginning of us dating that he gets looked at a lot or hit on often especially just from his looks alone but its starting to make me uncomfortable as I’m noticing more minor things recently. For example, we were out at a bar and after we had casual conversation with a female bartender—she completely started to ignore me and only acknowledged and spoke with my boyfriend after a certain point. This similar situation has happened with servers in the past and mutual friends we first meet. I remember another instance where he introduced me to a bartender he would frequent at with his buddies and when this girl realized we were together, her demeanor completely changed and she completely ignored me the rest of the night.

I guess a little bit of me gets bothered because a lot of these women are very attractive. I trust my boyfriend but I can’t help but feel uncomfortable once I feel the negative energy/energy shift coming from the women sometimes. I have mentioned to my boyfriend in the past on how it’s kind of made me uncomfortable and he’s done his best to not come across too friendly but he’s never had to do that before and I hate asking him to limit himself. I mean at the end of the day, it’s not like he can help what he looks like lol. How should I react during these situations without overreacting or coming across insecure?

TLDR: boyfriend of 3 years is a catch and very attractive. He gets a lot of attention from women in general but I have come across a few situations where the women (that we have met in group settings or have encountered as servers or bartenders) will stop acknowledging me and speak only to my boyfriend. It’s something I’ve been noticing more recently and it makes me uncomfortable; what’s the best way to react/think about these situations without letting my insecurities get the best of me or getting so annoyed at times?

Submitted November 30, 2021 at 08:54PM by ajs10b https://ift.tt/3d9ez05