I'm sorry this is probably longer than it needs to be lol. Been together 6 years, 26M & 25F.
So his mom bought him 2 tickets to an NHL game vs our rivals for staying sober, and he was going to take me because of how much I've supported him in his recovery. We also love hockey and watch together all the time, but rarely get the chance to go watch it live. I was super excited.
Well we got in a fight and stopped talking for a couple days, we were very close to breaking up. We then quickly made up, and when I saw him again he told me his best friend who doesn't watch much hockey "is going to the home opener" which is awesome, great for him. He followed with "I have something to tell you which will probably disappoint you. You know I don't see my best friend much right?" and I knew where this was going, so I just responded "well why not? Why don't you ask him to go out to eat or something once in awhile?" and his response was "because he always says oh I don't have any money, and he just wants to sit at home and play games all day (he has money for his girlfriend and gaming tho). Anyway, I'm going to give your ticket to him".
That really disappointed me, his friend gets to go to 2 games in a week for free and doesn't even follow our team. I'm upset because I honestly (maybe selfishly) kind of feel a sense of entitlement to that ticket, or like I'm more deserving. His mom sent us both pics of the tickets when she bought them, I felt like she was rewarding us both for his sobriety. I've drained myself so much helping him, I literally can't think of a better reward other than him being healthy.
I acknowledge that possibly he thought we were going to break up and gave the ticket to his friend during those 2 days we didn't talk, but if that was the case I'm sure he would have made that clear so I'd be more understanding and less upset. Also I know I'm not entitled to that ticket, but it's so incredibly disappointing since I've been super stressed neglecting my responsibilities so I could help him get back on his feet, and I finally had something really exciting to look forward to.
I really want to tell him how I feel and what I think about this, but I don't know if I'm out of line here and I really don't know how to bring this up without sounding super entitled or whiny. I've mentioned I was disappointed and his response was telling me we'll go to the corn maze instead or something. It's sweet he's trying to make me feel better but all I can think is "that's nothing compared to an NHL game" and this all makes me feel like a whiny greedy brat lol. I also don't think he acknowledges how much this would've meant to me, especially compared to his friend.
Opinions and communication advice please?
TLDR: He got 2 tickets to an NHL game, he invited me saying I deserved it for tirelessly supporting him. He later gives my ticket to his friend who he doesn't see often because the friend never wants to leave his house or spend money. I need advice on how express my disappointment, or if I even should.
Submitted October 23, 2021 at 03:15PM by NovelMycologist131 https://ift.tt/30WcguG
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