Me and boy friend (him 45, me 39) been together for almost 3 years. He has a friend couple at his own age where he used to be coworkers with the man and got to know the woman afterwards. Let’s call my boyfriend Paul, her Beth and the guy friend Eric. Fictive names.
The first year that I dated Paul, I met the couple very early and she was a bit odd to me. Like she was very nice on one hand, she actually comes across to everyone as very nice, but said things that sounded weird. Like the first time I met them I had dated my boyfriend 1 month, she said about me while everyone heard “I was hoping she was older than me, I’m one year older than you, Paul”. Which is super weird. But she is one year older than the two men, I’m the youngest. So she’s had a comment about me being so young and she oldest absolutely everytime I met them for a year. And other things too, one time she was very wrong about something when Paul was going on a business trip and we talked about an event and she pointed at Paul (only I heard) and said she was going to be with him then. He was going to be alone on a business trip and I knew it was wrong, asked my boyfriend and he confirmed it was wrong. He has however done things like biking with her when Eric’s been on a business trip and been out on town just the two of them. Paul does have more female friends, but the others not in the same city like her.
I’ve asked Paul about her, if he likes her, I got very upset over her at a point. They could have this “tone” especially her where I felt she was bordering over to flirting. He said he finds her manipulating and controlling, can play on sex, but that he doesn’t think she does it to be mean. I said I’ve felt her being manipulative to both Paul and Eric (and me). She is good looking, not like crazy so, but better than me.
Then COVID came and she also stopped those comments, my impression is that either Eric or even Paul told her off and it’s been good for 1,5 years. The last weird thing she said was: “he always called me in the middle of the night when he has been drinking “. Paul had seen a text by Eric that they had been engaged and he tried to call both of them to congratulate. But the comment sounded weird.
My boyfriend loves to make sourdough bread and she’s tasted it and asked recently if he can show her step by step how to do it as she’s tried and it’s confusing with all the steps. My boyfriend said he’d love to. She asks if it can be done in a weekend. Now, me and boyfriend don’t live together yet. And I’m uncomfortable with her possibly staying over alone at his place to do it. He had a guest room. If Paul goes to Eric and Beth’s place instead and Eric is there, it’s okay.
Am I overreacting here? I asked him alone if I could join and he said he could show me sooner than that too. So I’ve not said the real reason I want to join. Will I seem overly jealous or controlling if I ask t be there? Also, does it sound like she is jealous the first year?
Tl:Dr Female engaged friend of boyfriend wants to make sourdough bread with him which will require two days and it makes me uncomfortable if she sleeps over alone. She’s been weird to me before.
Submitted October 04, 2021 at 01:39AM by wyliya https://ift.tt/3l4UA7J
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