New boyfriend [24F] and [26M] has made me insecure about my looks and height, and I'm not sure how to cope with it/ let it go

We've been dating almost 4 months (super short time), and I can't remember what we were talking about, but the other day while we were in his bed he told me that he was talking with his friends about how they each have a "type" and never end up dating that type. He's very proud of his height (he's tall), and he said his type is tall, skinny girls (preferably blonde girls). Guess what I am none of? Those things! I am a 5'1 short petite curvy-ish brunette. I definitely faced insecurities about those parts of myself when I was younger... wanting to be blonde, or 5'10, or whatever... but I've learned to love myself and find myself beautiful, and not that it should matter, but I've found comfort in the fact that other people have found me attractive, too.

But for some reason that statement really got to me. At the time I told him I didn't need to know that, and I wouldn't tell him my "type" (not that I really have one or think in those terms), because it's unnecessary and does nothing for no one. I didn't say this part, but I obviously can't change things like my height, and neither can he, so is there a point in telling each other that we don't meet those dream specifications?

I'm doubly insecure because he's made it pretty clear already that he wants kids one day (I'm not sure about what I want myself), and all I can think about is my dumb short genes letting him down and having kids that are shorter, rather than the basketball team he's probably envisioning. I hate the thought of him thinking these things in his head, and thinking that he might have to "settle" with me.

What do I do? Do I have to talk about this with him? I feel like if I do, I'll make this a bigger deal than it is. I would prefer to deal with this on my own if possible. It's affecting my confidence in this whole relationship and I'm hoping some kind soul here can snap me out of these crappy thoughts.

TLDR New boyfriend said his type is tall skinny blonde chicks. I am short curvy-ish and brunette. Why is he dating me?? Why did he say that?? I'm doubly insecure because he clearly loves being tall, and wants kids someday - all I can think about is how he probably wants a basketball team, and I don't think I can give him that... :(

Update I was expecting this to get only a couple comments - thank you everyone for your thoughts, I appreciate them. I do think in most cases, communication is a valuable step before making a decision like "dump him". So I'll start there, as some comments suggested. Thanks everyone.

Submitted August 20, 2021 at 06:24AM by tof333lalive https://ift.tt/3mlhad6