I [M25] asked my GF [F25] to go back to her parents place so I could stay alone and have some headspace

Hello /r/relationship,

I'm writing this like 5 minutes after my GF and I had a conversation by message to clarify things, so things are still pretty heated right now.

The thing is, I am renting a 300 sq. ft (28 m2) apartment, only 1 room and as a young IT engineer, I work at home during the week, home office you know.

She use to live in her parents place. Then when we got in couple she just joined in my flat but I still pay the rent 100%.

These last day, since we spent all these last weeks 24/7 together, I noticed my mood was kinda off: I began to be less responsive to her, didn't even check the memes she sent me because I fell like she was always distracting me during what I was doing. She ended up being a bit irritated too since I wouldn't give her the attention she needed, which is pretty normal actually. I think I can interpret my mood as a "please leave me alone and don't disturb me" mood.

I swear I don't blame it on her and she is a cutie, but I think that if we would get a bigger apartment (2 rooms), we could get our own space when we need it. I might be wrong though and if we engage in renting an apartment at 2 it might be a really big mistake. By the way it's not quite possible for her right now due to her employment status, so all I can do is wait for her to maybe get a permanent contract

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Now here is the thing, I was so suffocated by the situation somehow, that I went outside yesterday and texted her about the fact that "I needed some time alone, that I don't know why, and that I was sorry for that." She went back home to her parents' place and then we slept separately since a long time. Yes I felt like shit when I went to sleep last night.

She blamed me this morning by message, telling me that when we are together, she let me do whatever I want (read, sport, video games, go to the bar with friends), but I try to tell her that's I just need some alone time. And now she feels abandoned, and I feel bad for it.

Now, she do let me alone for 1 week but I don't feel like she understands why. I feel like she leaves me alone because I asked her to, but she doesn't understand the deeper meaning from my side.

Do you have an advice about how I could handle this situation ?
How I could say things for her to understand that I need some headspace sometimes and it's natural ?

She is a very talkative person and I am more of an introvert, so sometimes having her by my side might be energy intensive for me and I can feel exhausted pretty fast.

We've been in a relationship since the beginning of 2021, so it's pretty new and we've been together almost all of the time ever since.

(ty /r/relationships, I am relieved that there is a place like that where I can share some information and where I could get the less biased answer possible).

If I made some grammar mistakes it's because I'm from France, yes, haha.

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tl;dr: How I can make my GF understand that I need some headspace sometimes and it's natural ? Actually I just want to read books alone, playing some video games and practice some sport by my own.

Submitted July 25, 2021 at 05:07AM by AznMonkei https://ift.tt/3iN3nsp