My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years and recently made the decision to move in together. Honestly, I hate it.
Little things that were minor annoyances before living together are a much bigger part of my life now. For instance, he sleeps in a lot later than I do, and he is sensitive to not getting enough sleep. So there are often a few hours in the morning when I just can't go into my own bedroom. It is attached to the bathroom so I can't go in there and shower and get ready for the day without disturbing him, and I am just sitting around stewing about it like I am now.
I also am realizing just how different our libidos are. We used to not spend every night together, but now that we do, he literally wants sex every single day, even twice a day. The other day I wasn't feeling well and he still asked me if I felt up to having sex. I guess it is ok to ask but it really annoyed me. He also masturbates next to me in bed if I say no which just I don't know why it really bothers me.
He also doesn't take initiative to do stuff like do the laundry or get groceries. He will just re-wear the same dirty shirt until I do the laundry, and he will eat all the food in the house without replacing it. He will Venmo me money for groceries but it is a chore going shopping and he literally never does it. At the same time, he does tend to do more things like washing up and and sweeping, so he thinks that he does more around the house than I do (he said this the other day).
Are these just growing pains of moving in together and I should sit him down and try to problem solve? Or was moving in together a mistake? Can we stay together (not break up) if we go back to living separately?
tl;dr: I hate living with my boyfriend. Our sleep, sex, and cleaning schedules are not aligned. Can it be fixed?
Submitted July 03, 2021 at 09:02AM by Distinct-Swimming-71 https://ift.tt/3hh5up8
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