Hi everyone, I need to know if anyone has any advice or anything that they can talk to me about, I'm at my wits end.
my girlfriend finds any almost any sort of sexual content outside of directly her unacceptable. Which has lead to a lot of fights over the past 2 years we have been together. Back when we first got together I used to follow a lot of those "cosplayer" instagram accounts which made her really angry and fine, I realized I didn't need to follow that stuff I had an actual girlfriend. but when we moved in together about a year and a half ago it lead to getting rid of some of my books that were clearly sexual in nature (anime, comics, some romance novels stuff like that. Think negima) because she was very opposed to having it in the house and it made her upset.
But she gets mad if she finds out I enjoyed something that may have something vaguely sexual in it
and makes me explain things to her in excruciating detail to get to the point that I didn't enjoy it for that. She makes it very clear that it upsets her greatly and I know what I should do. But also lets me know I can still do it, it will just make her mad. She also makes quite obvious I just flat out shouldn't enjoy it.
she herself really doesn't like it as she views almost any sexuality in media as being overblown and people using it and cheapening it. Also oppressing people and the sheer fact that you don't need that since you have a girlfriend you can get that from
Case and point I started reading the dresden files books recently. Its a Fantasy Hardboiled Crime Thriller. I really like fantasy / crime but It has a sexual nature and its very violent like most detective novels are. When she asked me today "will I enjoy it?" I had to respond "I don't think you would, it has a lot of sexuality in it" and it lead to a huge fight because i have a hard time telling her about the other interesting parts in the book. I really enjoyed the book. It was exciting and the way they used magic was interesting but It feels like she always glosses over that to hyper focus on the sexuality aspect and I feel like I can never explain things to her suitably because I'm honestly just not the best at speaking or arguing. I often get caught up in my own words and end up just saying something along the lines of "we are different people and I enjoy this kind if thing, you don't have to and I don't care if you do or do not" which I get is a bad way to word that, but its so frustrating to have someone tell you to your face to stop enjoying what they don't enjoy and then they bring out reasons why you shouldn't. Worst thing is its a book, not even like a real person with a real instagram. Or even a comic with a visible artform
I honestly just need someone to talk to and i don't really know where to go. Thanks i guess for reading all that.
TL;DR I like something that has a sexual nature and it makes my girlfriend angry
Submitted July 03, 2021 at 04:31AM by Justletmeaskquestion https://ift.tt/3jDs4to
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