My (31F) boyfriend (29M) and I have been dating for 5 months. We’re very happy and have great communication. We’re both very open about what we want, don’t want, needs, etc. My bf recently went out of town to a fraternity bro’s bachelor party. His own brother (36M) was also invited, since he lives in the city where they visited for the party. Before he left, my bf and I had a long talk about boundaries, expectations, etc. He asked me my preferences, and I shared that I preferred that he not go to strip clubs. He has never been to one before, and shared that he wasn’t interested in going to one. I also shared that I prefer he not go. For starters, I’m immune compromised and strip clubs in this city aren’t known for their social distancing. I also shared with him that I’m generally uncomfortable with anyone I’m seeing being involved with sex work - whether it’s strippers, escorts, etc. [I’m from a conservative culture, my friends and family consider bachelor and bachelorette parties sleazy and unnecessary.] However, I love him and trust him. I told him to make his own decisions, I could only share my preferences. No ultimatums, etc. His brother just called his father to express that he’s concerned my bf isn’t “thinking for himself” and is being “controlled.” I feel sick, and I’m not sure what to do? How do I prove a negative - ie that I’m not controlling and that bf is truly “thinking for himself?”
Tl; Dr- BF’s (29M) bro is annoyed he didn’t go to a strip club with them and blame me (31F).
Submitted July 25, 2021 at 09:30PM by NightBlooms88 https://ift.tt/3i3lOdd
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