My (29M) sister (25F) is engaged to the guy (29M) that used to bully me in middle/high school and I don't know what to do.

When I was in middle and high school, I was horrendously bullied by one of my classmates. He would call me names and make fun of me and get his friends to do the same. He'd shove me, push me or try to trip me every time he had the chance. He'd often grab my backpack and put it somewhere I couldn't reach and laugh at how short I was. In addition to the daily taunting and bullying, he turned most of my friends against me and ruined my social life. Needless to say, I hate him more than anything.

About 2-3 years ago, my sister started dating him. During these years, he never apologized to me or even showed any remorse. Despite that, my sister has gone ahead with their relationship.

Recently, my sister announced that she's engaged. Additionally, she also said she's 10 weeks pregnant and that she's expediting the wedding so the child is born in wedlock. She told me that she hopes I'm no longer holding a grudge and that I should just attend her wedding and walk her down the aisle (an accident left my father paralyzed 6 years ago so I'm supposed to be the one to do the honor). I felt really betrayed and hurt that my own sister would choose to spend her life with someone that ruined my life for years so I told her: "Thanks for letting me know, but I really can't stand the sight of someone that ruined my youth. I won't come to your wedding so you should find someone else to walk you down the aisle. I really don't want [name] to be near me because he makes me very uncomfortable."

My sister then starts crying and tells me that I'm an asshole and that I hurt her feelings. Our parents scolded me for being "mean" and "childish". Even my wife thinks I overreacted and that I should just go to the wedding.

My sister and I have been very close for the past few years and I feel really angry and betrayed that she's choosing someone that made my childhood traumatic. She's otherwise really nice to me, and we do see each other at least once a week. However, I'm completely lost and have no idea what to do.

tl;dr: My sister is engaged to my middle/high school bully and I don't know what to do.

Submitted March 01, 2021 at 02:17PM by throwaway2097152 https://ift.tt/3e2P3eW