My (24F) mother (50F) was hospitalized last month after a mental breakdown. My parents have been lying to me about her taking her meds.

My mother has always had a history of severe mental illness, but has also always been distrustful of doctors so she never went to therapy or got diagnosed or anything. Obviously this really impacted me growing up because I was constantly walking on eggshells around her moods, just waiting for the next time things would get really bad. I tried my best growing up to encourage her to seek help but she never listened and I ended up moving across the country several years ago to get away from the stress of home. I don’t really talk to my parents often.

As for my dad, he has always bent to whatever my mother decided, no matter how irrational. I would try to talk to him about how harmful her behaviour was but he always brushed it off and never did anything.

Last month, I got a panicked call from my dad saying that my mother had had a full mental breakdown, tried to hurt him, and then threw herself in front of a car. Thankfully it did not hit her, but she was promptly hospitalized in the psych ward where she initially refused her meds, assaulted a nurse in the process, tried to jump out of the window, and got herself temporarily put in a padded room.

None of this was surprising to me but it seemed surprising to my dad because of his many years of denial. He didn’t know what to do. So I tried my best to help him, make sure he was okay and safe, etc. But, before I did that, I gave him conditions for my participation.

I told him that if he wanted me to be involved in the situation that I would need all of the information. Everything from her doctors, diagnoses, dosages, etc. I had to make sure they were giving me the full story so I could do my best for them. My dad promised to do this and we had several conversations about how things really need to change, he needs to make sure she takes her medication, can’t let her be so in control of things anymore, needs to make sure she gets a therapist and gets the help she needs before things get worse and they potentially both get hurt.

Initially we were told she would be in the psych ward for six weeks, but she was somehow released after five days. The doctors never even had her attend group or individual therapy, they just let her go. I was baffled.

It’s been a month since her release and they’ve barely told me anything. I keep checking in to see how they’re doing and all I get is answers like ‘we are good. Just making breakfast’ or whatever evasive answer. My auntie called me yesterday asking if I had any more info than her because she was worried. I said I didn’t and that no one has been telling me anything. During this conversation she let slip that my mom stopped taking her medication the second she got home, and that my dad has allowed that to happen. This is something I’ve specifically been asking about and it turns out they’ve been lying to me this whole time.

I don’t know where to go from here. How am I supposed to approach this when they’re acting like nothing happened and are straight up lying to me when I ask them direct questions. I feel so betrayed.

TLDR— my mom was in the psych ward last month and hasn’t taken her medication since she was released. Both my parents have been lying to me about this and I don’t know what to do or how to help the situation moving forward.

Submitted March 03, 2021 at 09:15AM by seacricket4 https://ift.tt/2O3efah