I (20f) can't decide if I did the right thing by getting a friend (21f) hospitalized and suspended from campus

This is a long one. Using a throwaway because if this gets any traction, people would definitely know it was me posting.

My good friend (21f), who I (20f) now kind of understand was never really a friend to me at all, has a debilitating drinking problem. I'm talking drinks every night, drives to the bar, gets more drunk, and drives home. She's been in several accidents, and almost killed 2 of my close friends because she had drank half a bottle of Jack and was so incoherent that she didn't realize she was driving on the side of the highway until my other friend was able to gain control of the car.

Right after that happened, she also got so drunk at a bar that she assaulted someone she considered to be a friend, and then was so absolutely hammered that she got the cops called on her. The assault charges were never pressed.

Everyone dropped her, her roommates kicked her out, and I was the only person who stuck by her side to support her because I understand the struggles of addiction all too well. I tried to find her a therapist, offered to drive her to therapy or AA, and even offered to pay for therapy because of how badly I wanted her to get help. I was just told to fuck off- but I kept trying. I begged her to go to rehab, telling her that every time she's even 10 minutes late to work (I'm her manager) I go into panic mode, calling everyone, trying to figure out if she's killed herself from drunk driving the night before or not. She frequently comes into work high or hungover, or just doesn't show up at all so she can get high or recover from a hangover. I even reached out to her brother to try to get him to get her family involved, but never got a response.

I tried absolutely everything before I went to campus safety, but eventually, I broke down. I couldn't handle waking up every day with the stress of worrying about if she was dead or not. I met with campus safety in early February, and they were amazing. Didn't treat it as a drug case, they treated it entirely as "this girl is in crisis, and we need to help her" which I really admired- I never wanted her to get arrested, and she never did.

So over the course of 2 weeks or so, they worked with counseling, student conduct, etc. to figure out the best course of action. Eventually, it was decided to do a wellness check on her, and after this wellness check, she was taken away to an inpatient hospital for a psych evaluation, and got suspended from campus until she gets help.

The suspension in no way affects her ability to graduate in May, I made sure of that.

Now, she's sending me texts saying I ruined her life, I took away her choice and freedom to get help (she was never going to get help, she made that clear to everyone in her life), and is going to do whatever it takes to retaliate against me, even though she claims she loves me. She's trying to get my friends to turn against me. I'm so scared of retaliation that I got a no contact order against her- but I don't believe it will stop her from some form of property destruction, harassment, defamation, etc.. I also have a history of drug use, but am sober now other than the occasional glass of wine.

I can't decide if I did the right thing. On one hand, I did absolutely every possible thing I could over the course of several months to try to help her before I resorted to campus safety, but on the other hand, I understand involving authorities can be a bad move, especially when I've been in her shoes.

So Reddit, please tell me, am I in the wrong here?

tldr; Friend has a debilitating addiction problem. I tried every possible outlet for months to get her help, was met with "fuck off", and eventually had to resort to campus safety which got her temporarily suspended from campus until she gets help, since she is endangering her life and the lives of others.

Submitted March 02, 2020 at 12:25PM by gayweeb420 https://ift.tt/39j8pXS