My parents (50+ M and F) are pressuring me (25M) to marry someone from my country only and I feel like I’ll be forced to make a difficult decision

So as the title says, I still live with my parents and we have a generally okay relationship. They are pretty strict and I used to clash with them a lot in my teenage years. It was mainly due to me being out a lot but they also didn’t like my friendship group because they weren’t white etc.

My life got put on hold a little when I got a chronic illness but recently they have been bringing up the idea of me getting married. In my culture it’s an extremely important thing to get married and have kids. I personally haven’t put that much importance on it but it’s important to them. I personally am not really that attracted to girls from my home country and have been with girls of a different race to me and have mainly had good experiences with them.

It’s gotten to the point where my parents will very bluntly say they don’t want me to bring a brown or black girl home or for me to marry one which then will lead to an argument. I’ve been holding it off because of university but I feel like sooner or later I’ll have to decide between my family and marrying someone I actually love. They are the type of people to make me decide between one or the other. They won’t be accepting and they’ll put the blame onto me. I really don’t know what to do as I just feel lost and like I can never please them but I also feel bad for not being able to give them what they want.

TLDR: my parents are very traditional and want me to marry/be with someone from my country only. I feel like this is going to lead to me having to decide between my family or a person I could potentially be with long term and I’m not sure what to do.

Submitted February 09, 2020 at 11:07AM by tidderdnalro https://ift.tt/38cU3rf