I have 2 roommates. Both of them moved in with me this past September, at which point we had talked about the division of chores and agreed we would all contribute fairly, etc. After a couple months, it became clear to me that unless I was reminding people to do their chores, neither of them would do them. So we had another meeting to set expectations and they both agreed they’d be better about taking the initiative, that a general “once a month” house clean would be acceptable, and we divided the areas of the house for the first month following that. I think it was November?
That was the last time my roommate cleaned our (shared) bathroom.
Since then I (or my boyfriend, who doesn’t live with us but wanted to do something nice for me) have cleaned our bathroom.
3 weeks ago I finally asked my roommate to clean it. He said he was busy, but that he would do it “soon.” A week after that, he got sick. Then he said he would do it last Saturday. It didn’t happen. I asked when it would get done and he said, “I’ll do it when I have time, don’t worry.” It is now 3 weeks out since I asked him and he still says he’s been busy.
I don’t know how else to ask him; our bathroom is getting filthy to the point where you can see grime in the shower and countertops, and I’ve already had to partially clean our toilet just so I don’t feel bad about sitting on it. I’ve been the only one emptying the bathroom trash until I asked him specifically to do it last week.
I’m thinking of proposing splitting the costs of a house service, but we’re all pretty frugal, and I have no problem cleaning itself, I just hate doing the bathroom and I just don’t want to do it ALL the time.
FWIW this roommate has also been leaving his dishes in the sink, and was so bad about emptying the dishwasher that I just decided to wash my own dishes from now on so as not to have to wait for him when it’s his turn to empty the dishwasher.
I’m tired of doing the emotional labour of hounding him to do his part, and the actual labour of cleaning our shared spaces. I’ve tried for the most part just to not be dependent on him doing his share (eg: washing my own dishes instead of using the dishwasher) but there are certain things, like bathroom use, that can’t really be separated. What can I do now?
Tldr: Roommate won’t do his chores, specifically cleaning the bathroom, without being asked, and even after being asked won’t do them. I’m tired of being house manager and maid. What are my options?
Submitted February 08, 2020 at 10:49AM by evannalai https://ift.tt/378DLyA
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