My [25/F] sister [30/F] is causing a family crisis because she is no longer taking care of her children and would instead rather perform at drag shows.

Hey guys, I can't believe I'm writing this.

I don't know the whole story because I live in a different country from my whole family. My sister has been having some sort of mental health crisis or marital problems with her husband. She told me two weeks ago they are getting a separation and will take turns watching her 2 kids, aged 4 and 2. One of the children has low functioning autism and does not adapt to change very well. She is currently staying with my mother and father.

A few days ago my father called me asking for advice. She basically has completely absconded trying to parent her kids, and is either on her phone, texting, or performing at drag shows in the evening. Her husband just had quit his job because he can't go to work and watch 2 kids, but now they don't have a source of income supporting them. My parents have to also take turns minding the children as respite is required due to one of them having special needs to be accommodated for.

My sister apparently also acts totally fine and euphoric at my parents home, but is threatening suicide when she visits her home with her husband.

I'm at a loss for words, I don't know what advice they want from me or what they should do. I told them they have to set boundaries with her and stop coddling her. I told them they are enabling her and they need to give her some tough love and not do everything for her anymore. But they don't seem to be listening to me. What do I say or do?

Tldr: My sister is refusing to take care of her kids and it is forcing her husband and my parents to take turns while she enjoys nightlife and performs at shows. It's causing a family crisis. What do I do?

Submitted February 09, 2020 at 10:25PM by Stockholmsyndra https://ift.tt/2SbokBs