TLDR: We have very wealthy friends who I feel self-conscious around because we struggle just to get by. Please help me come up with ways to not feel this way.
My wife and I moved to a small town about a year ago and almost immediately, she met a new friend at a local playgroup “Lily”. They hit it off and I was soon introduced to her husband “Emmett” who I also get along with very well. Lily and Emmett are super nice people, very generous and will drop everything to help us with anything. My wife has been having a difficult pregnancy and Lily literally comes to our house every other day with her daughter to play with our child and help my wife with cleaning, cooking, whatever.
Lily comes from an independently wealthy family and I have gathered, inherited a very large sum and also has access to a sizable trust fund. Emmett works a management job at a local company which is definitely a great job but couldn’t support the lifestyle they live. They have an absolutely beautiful custom home overlooking a lake, drive luxury cars, take exotic vacations and basically live the good life. Neither of them are yet 30 years old, yet I think they could probably retire if they wanted. It would be easy to resent them if they weren’t the most genuinely kind people I’ve ever met.
I work in public service and my wife stays home with our daughter. We barely squeak by and I can’t help feeling inadequate when I see our daughters playing together, one dressed in Walmart, the other in clearly expensive designer clothes. I feel ashamed of the house I work so hard to afford when they come over for dinner with flowers that cost more than our electric bill. I feel self conscious when I drive up to their house and park our beat up Ford next to their shiny Tesla. I would love it if somebody could give me some tools to get over this, because it feels like such a stupid thing to get hung up on. They are great friends, we are lucky to have met them. I don’t know how we would be getting by without Lily helping my wife so much. I am ashamed of myself for feeling this way!
Submitted February 01, 2020 at 03:22PM by petethedoughboy https://ift.tt/2tovI2M
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