I [M22] met a girl (F21) about a year ago, and we are now dating. I graduated from college, and she still has 2 years left, so we are doing long distance. We see each other every other weekend, sometimes more often than that.
She has recently been wanting to talk about our plans when she graduates, which I completely understand. However, she keeps telling me that I need to tell her how long I am going to wait before I propose. She does not want to "waste time" (she was previously in a 4 year relationship that didn't work out) and wants me to give her specifics about plans to get married (how long I need).
The problem is that I really don't know. I am definitely dating to find a wife, but I want to make sure that I'm marrying the right person before I pull the trigger. She hasn't said exactly, but it sounds like she would expect me to propose like right when she graduates. I, however, think that it would be smarter if we waited a little longer to see how we do when were not doing long distance. She is telling me that although she loves me, she doesn't think we should be together if I need more time.
There are also other things about her that I need to feel out. First of all, she had problems with being faithful to boyfriends in high school. I do think that she has definitely matured and changed, but this still makes me want to be cautious. She also has not let me meet her parents yet because I haven't told her my specific long term plans. She met mine when we were just friends before we even started dating. I feel that its important to meet someones family, as it says a lot about that person. I also know that people change a ton in their 20s, and I wouldn't want to get into something that would end badly.
Looking for advice.
TL;DR My long distance girlfriend of 5 months wants to know my specific long term plans, or she wants to break up.
Submitted November 24, 2019 at 07:13PM by xmasswagger https://ift.tt/2XI7NGj
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