Hi all, throwaway account, details changed, blah blah.
I am getting married next year, and it's finally time to send out the invites. Me and my partner decided to have a very small wedding (about 35 people total) because we feel it's a waste of money to invite lots of acquaintances and family members that we rarely see.
Now to the problem: I have a friend we'll call Michael.
I met Michael online about 15 years ago, and we met in person 3 times since. We are still friends and text every couple of weeks. I wouldn't call him my best friend, but he's been there literally half my life, and he's a great friend.
Michael is from a different culture, we have clashed sometimes because of this, and sometimes he's a bit difficult to deal with. He gets offended easily, and sometimes I don't see it coming because I see what I am doing / saying as pretty normal. Despite that we never had any huge arguments and we always care for each other.
My fiance is aware of all of this. We discussed inviting him. He asked to please not invite him because he doesn't want drama, and I kind of agree with him for different reasons.
My reasons are that he doesn't really know anybody apart from me. He met my sister once, and my fiance once. We are trying to only invite people that we care about and that know us both, + close family members. And if I did invite him, I am pretty sure he would feel very left out and be offended that I am not constantly with him since he doesn't know other people. I would also feel kind of an obligation to tend to him, which would make me uncomfortable during my day, and I don't really want any stress. As much as I would like him there, I don't think it's a great idea this time.
He doesn't have a girlfriend, and anyway if I gave him a +1 it would be someone that we don't know, which we also agreed not to do since we are limiting guest numbers.
How can I break the news to him? I am aware that whatever I say is going to offend him to some degree, but do you think there is some way I can lessen the blow?
TLDR; There is a close friend of mine that I am not going to invite to my wedding because of reasons. How do I soften the blow?
Submitted October 03, 2019 at 02:38AM by amihorribleomg https://ift.tt/2o74nzs
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