My (27F) Boyfriend (29M) of 3 years always claims he's broke when he makes way more than me and is paying much less rent since I moved in.

I was made redundant in my last job and struggled to find another (very bad interview anxiety) but after 3 months of travelling for interviews (sometimes multiple per day) and losing my mind trying to get something, I managed to secure a decent one which is low pay ATM but gives the potential to move up and I'm now in line to be manager. It's a medical administration position and I'm really enjoying it.

However I only earn £740 a month, and commuting costs a lot but I'm doing okay and don't want to leave as I'm happy settled and have a bright future there.

My boyfriend has been in the same job for 10 years and makes about 2.5K a month. He also gets bonuses on top (sometimes he gets an extra grande) and is frequently getting pay rises.

He used to live alone paying £600 a month bills and rent, but I moved in and now We split the rent and bills - he pays £400 and I pay £200 a month. We split food and everything else 50/50. My travelling costs me £200 at most.

My boyfriend spends a lot on himself, always buying things and drinks every night, has 2 cars and lots of gadgets etc. He also has 3 savings accounts and puts money into each every month. Which is great because he earns it. However he is always saying he is broke, but then splashing out immediately after. Almost every day he says "I'm going to treat myself today" and buys something for himself off the internet. Then complains he's got no money.

He will ask for my rent early saying he's skint. I told him last night that my wages go up next year and instead of being happy for me he said "That's not fair I wish mine did!" But he got a pay rise last week (he asks for them frequently). He will complain if he buys something for the house that HE wanted (eg he bought a new TV cabinet) and saying "I really wanted this video game but because I bought that TV cabinet I can't afford it now :(" and get really sad about it, but then spends loads on drink. He will also say he's broke but then randomly buy something expensive. I rarely spend money on myself at all, I don't need much to be happy, but I struggle at the end of the month.

He wants to go on holiday next year which I'm happy to do but I need to save for it after Xmas (I have a big family and currently saving for their presents) He's not in touch with any family and only buys me a present at Xmas. He wants to book a holiday now but wants me to pay exactly as much as him right now and I can't do that.

It's just annoying me how he keeps on about how skint he is when he's making so much more than me, and I thought me moving in would give him an extra £200 a month.

TL:Dr: Boyfriend keeps claiming he's broke when he's on far more money than me. Then splashes out. Ensures everything other than rent/bills has to be 50/50. Thought I was helping him out by moving in?

Submitted October 26, 2019 at 04:46AM by Catro100 https://ift.tt/2qKn5xH