I lost interest in my partner and our relationship many years ago and find it difficult to get away. Im not here to complain, but i hope a bit of backstory will help set the scene.
She moved in with me after a year of dating from a house she was sharing with her friend, a few days after moving in and getting settled, her parents arrived with the rest of her belongings. Before long, my spare room and garage were filled to the brim with boxes of random stuff. This is when i figured out she was a horder, shortly after i realised her parents were too.
6 months later, of parking my car on the street, she decided to quit her job and uni degree (1 semester from finishing) to start a business without talking to me about it. The business idea was a total flop imo, it involved her buying lots of items and was a totally new concept for good reason. The business to date has never made a single sale and she began treating our place like a resort, sleeping in till after noon, no cleaning, no helping out with bills or groceries etc.
Moving forward a few years, nothing much has changed, many "businesses" later, more hording of random items despite my dissenting opinion, still no income or helping out in any sort, yet requiring money to assist with outlandish bussiness ideas etc.
I finally ask her to move out because i no longer want to be in a relationship with her for various reasons, she leaves for a day or two then walks back in the door and doesnt speak to me for a few weeks. This happens a handful of times over the next few years.
Today, nothing much has changed still, ive spent about 10,000 in total helping her out(on her request) with her business ideas, yet they all barely make a cent. She still barely helps around the house, refuses to rinse dishes and dumps them in the sink covered in food etc and gives the reasoning "i cant im working", because she admins a small facebook group and is constantly on there talking and the like, just petty, but really annoying shit considering its up to me to keep the place clean.
So im at a point now, where id prefer if she moved out, but refuses yet cannot afford rent if i left. The apartment bond is my money, so i dont know how ill get that if i leave while shes still here. Shes always home so i cant sneak out and i know will try to stop me if i try to leave (has been violent before). I dont really have any friends to help me move, as shes scared them all off over the years with her bs. To add, itd be quiet the effort to get all my stuff out of the house seeing as some of it is buried amongst her horded items and im worried about getting a bad reference/owing money for cleaning and damage if i left her at the apartment and moved out.
What does everyone suggest?
Sorry for the long winded rambling. See last paragraph for a sorta tldr
Submitted October 25, 2019 at 02:52AM by Temp14here https://ift.tt/2qFfyQF
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