My girlfriend and I [25m] have been together for a little over 3 years, and have now been living together for about 2 and a half. She loves to start household projects; reorganizing our backyard, organizing storage, building a new cabinet, etc. but has a hard time actually finishing them. A part of it is that she can get pretty busy, and as a freelancer she will often have unexpected calls or odd hours. To put a hold on a task is pretty reasonable in that context.
However, I get rather frustrated when she doesn't prioritize that project. Especially when it causes a huge disruption, like furniture blocking the hallway or tons of cleaning supplies or tools lying out. For example, if she has work from 11am to 5pm, she won't get up early to resolve the project or take care of it when she gets home.
It starts to feel like i'm a father or a mother, because rather than clean up, she'll sleep in or relax after dinner watching netflix.
But i'm stuck in a rock and a hard place. As even if I try to take care of the project myself, I get in trouble because she wanted to do it herself.
So i'm not really sure how to approach the problem. In the past, i've gone full parent and scolded her for biting off more than she can chew. But this didn't actually lead to any change. Now, i'm not sure how to bring the topic up or help out without feeling like a parent. Any Advice?
tldr; my gf likes to start household projects, but leaves a huge mess and takes way too long to finish them. Is there anything I can do besides act like a parent and ask her to clean up every time?
Submitted July 27, 2018 at 10:46AM by cabose12 https://ift.tt/2vcijrs
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