TL;DR Guy I started seeing doesn't find me attractive but we connect intellectualy and I don't know what to do.
I started dating someone a few weeks back after meeting on a dating app. We talked on the phone prior to meeting for about 6 hours straight, and in general we have a very deep connection on a mental/intellectual aspect. When meeting he said something about how I don't look the same as my pics (although I validated that I do with some friends) and later on other dates he mentioned how he wouldn't have swiped right if I he didn't like what I wrote because in terms of looks it's not ideal. It's been a few weeks since and I do think we still have amazing conversations, but I know he discussed my appearance with his friends, and although he said something like 'Im starting to like how you look more' it's still kind of offensive and unpleasant knowing he doesn't find me very attractive, because that's something I can't really change about me all too much. To be fair I don't think I'm ugly (nor extremely pretty, I'm pretty average) and definitely don't think his exes were prettier, so this is kind of a difficult feeling because I can't feel fully comfortable next to him when I feel judged. Any advice on what should I do? Accept that he doesn't like it and my looks might grow on him but he might also feel embarrassed by me? Or should I just let this go and find someone who likes me as a whole? I haven't met many people in life with whom I have such deep intellectual connection.
Submitted August 20, 2021 at 11:12PM by taihak https://ift.tt/3mqijjJ
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